Challenging gender roles has much less to do with trading stereotypical expectations and more to do with throwing them out entirely.
The relationship focuses on control. It is very crucial to develop your own identity and a solid sense of self in such a relationship. Here are a few signs that can help you determine whether your relationship is codependent or not.
This is the first thought that crosses my mind every time I think about losing weight. It is a question that I do not have the answer to—at least not one that ever seems to stick
I can’t help but compare my relationship with my mother to that of Black folks’ relationship with white America and white supremacy. Black folks are the battered children of the relationship and white supremacy and all those who prop it up are the abusive parents.
Consider that crying automatically infers to those around you that people of colour are the aggressors whilst positioning you as the victim of a hurtful behaviour. Crying at a call out reinforces the abusive stereotypes already in place. It perpetuates them.
While I have indeed learned important lessons from prominent White anti-racist educators (like the above ability-privilege analogy that I pulled from Tim Wise), here are lessons people of Color who have taught me that have changed my life – and they could change yours as well.
It can seem overwhelming and pointless to fight the bombardment of negative body image information we receive all day in the media and the people around us. Yet, there are ways to deal with the parts of our bodies that still cause us discomfort without succumbing to damaging body shame.
I needed an outlet, and Pokemon had always been one of those escapes into which I could fall.
While I firmly believe these utterances are always said with good intentions, they usually do more harm than good.
Time away from romantic relationship broke the spell of my belief that I was incomplete and unworthy and on the brink of disaster if I am “alone.”
When I see someone teaching kids to hate their bodies, I’m mad.Helping kids feel good about their bodies in this fat-phobic culture isn’t easy, and we need to be able to talk about body size in an open and non-judgmental way. Not only will they be exposed to messages in the media and on the playground, as members of this weight shaming culture, parents often their own attitudes toward weight that are passed down – often unintentionally – to their children. While we can’t control all of the messages our children will receive, we can do our best to make sure we aren’t contributing to the negative ones.
Cuando sea que haya empezado, siento que ya tengo la experiencia suficiente luego de tantos años de sufrir ansiedad para saber que lo que las personas le dicen a quienes sufrimos de ansiedad puede afectar profundamente su estado de ánimo y su bienestar.
As I have watched the national dialogue unfold around sexual harassment and sexual violence, I can’t help but take notice of the lack of tie in to a much larger picture: namely, how men have abused their power to dominate and inflict violence upon not only women (and women of color in particular), but our Mother Earth.
Even when the ideas and terms I was using to describe myself were new and unfamiliar to them, my loved ones never doubted that what I was experiencing was real and important to me. They never challenged the validity of my gender. Instead, they let me know they trusted my perception of myself.
Many disabilities come with stigma, and family members try to hide certain disabilities from one another or from people outside of the family. If you talk about accepting differences, but don’t actually live that out in your own family, your child will learn to see disabilities as something bad that need to be hidden. I have always been honest with my son that I have an invisible disability, mental illness.