‘Have you thought about how a polyamorous relationships works with kids?’ my colleague asked as I suppressed a smile. I’ve written a book about it, I was tempted to say.
The years I spent feeling like an outsider because I wasn’t a conservative Christian made me very aware of the reality of Christian privilege, a form of privilege that is rarely addressed when talking about intersectional feminism. These are some of the lessons I’ve learned.
As horrible as my panic attacks continue to be, over the years I have created a helpful plan of action for taking care of myself when I am having one. I cannot say that any of these steps will definitely work for you, but I invite you to give them a try if you believe they will be helpful.
Mental illness does not discriminate on the basis of identity or background. Why, then, are people of color often silenced, ignored, and excluded from the discussion? White-centricism not only takes over the narrative of mental health, it consumes media representation, access to services/resources, and even community support.
From the psychological torture, to the physical toll that detention takes on children’s bodies, it’s a disturbingly easy case to make as to why kidnapping and jailing immigrant children constitute body terrorism. The Trump regime, ICE officials, detention staff, and everyone else complicit in the situation are treating children’s bodies as disposable, fit to sleep on thin mats or directly on concrete floors in unbearably cold conditions.
When our arguments became too much to bear; When I felt like she was slipping away from me, I cut. At some point during the argument the night before, I went to the bathroom as I always did to cut. After her discovery, I came clean. Her reaction was one of fear and confusion. “Black people don’t do things like this.” She said. I had never thought of my cutting in the context of race.
Being trans, and being disabled, both mean having a body that other people feel entitled to have opinions about. Our bodies are never just bodies; they’re talking points, political cannon fodder. I’ll never know what type of man I would have been if I didn’t live in this disabled body. I’ll never know how my relationship with my world, as a disabled person, would be different if I were cis.
When America’s pandemic rape culture makes victims of sexual assault their own perpetrators – blaming their choice in clothes, how much they had to drink, how late they were out, etc. – who wouldn’t want to forego silence?
Cis men, and especially white or or straight men, have the privilege of getting away with interrupting these microaggressions without risking themselves in the same ways those who don’t have privileges would be at risk.
I want to talk about the idea that self-love is complicated and challenging. I want to talk about how, despite the fact that I champion self-love in my work and writing, the reality of it is arduous. Self-love is not some glorious space of unending enlightenment. It is not a place you reach upon pure reflection and will. It is tiring and hard. It is valuing yourself even when others do not. Let me tell you — It is thriving even when you feel the world pushing you down.
We can come to peace with aging and death. As we age, our bodies will definitely change. That is something you can’t out run forever, no matter what. But we don’t have to catastrophize every change or ache. We can find new ways to move and embrace our bodies, today, as is.
I know that distributing lunches will not solve the systemic issues that lead to homelessness but I do it because people are hungry and I want to help ease their hunger. What I have learned is that people are not just hungry for food, but for respect, for kindness and for care. In a world of suffering, living out of love and concern is the only way I know to make the injustice bearable.
But in the US, our cultural imaginary is so focused on casting Islam and Muslims as a monolith of close minded and bigoted people that we can’t imagine a Muslim who is anything but heterosexual. And yet, here we are.
Doce maneras de saber si tu cansancio se debe al trabajo emocional y cómo construir limites saludables.
En esta conversación, quiero nombrar seis maneras que he descubierto que me agotan por realizar trabajo emocional. Sin embargo, también me gustaría dedicar tiempo a compartir estrategias que utilizo para no quemarme la cabeza dando apoyo emocional.
There are plenty of survivors whose path to recovery runs contrary to traditional narratives to what a “proper recovery” looks like.