Radical Self-Love for Everybody and Every Body
It terrifies me how widely accepted, how normalized, how validated bullying and fatphobia continues to be – even amongst the most revolutionary of people. We do not deserve to have our bodies be made villainous or humorous.
As individuals committed to justice and progressive values, it is always our responsibility to elevate the voices of the marginalized.
We can recognize that holidays mean disrupted schedules, and disrupted schedules are scary.This pent-up anxiety will ultimately be your fuel as you burst with energy from the stressful wait-here present and propel yourself into the holiday weekend.
Don’t feel guilty for not doing all the things! Your needs are important and it’s a big part of self-love to recognize this simple but often forgotten fact.
There is tremendous pressure on parents to raise children who are “obedient” and “polite”. This pressure often results in giving kids mixed messages about their bodies.Teaching radical self love is teaching children to honor and own their bodies unapologetically.
I’ve been using the pronouns they/them/theirs for almost three years. The decision to switch my pronouns was scary. Even though I’d met several non-binary people who used pronouns other than he and she, I was still worried about what people would think if I did. Who would actually use them, and how hard would it be to make people respect them?
Winter break is a time we all tend to pick up a book, but are our choices political?… Our viewpoints have changed to reflect our cultural consciousness — and yet queer, disabled, and non-white people still don’t make it into the future.
Having full autonomy of one’s body and family planning is so crucial to my and others’ communities. This is something that we have been fighting since before the 50’s. Getting an IUD, for me, was resisting against a man who doesn’t even know me and thinks I need to shut my mouth, along with my legs.
The holidays come with special challenges for many of us . For me, it’s the social obligations. It’s about the most dangerous person I have dealt with in the past…me and the inner thoughts that cut me down – the voices of shame, and comparison that come from within me before they come from anyone else. But this year that is changing!
To me, maturity is a shifting and growing in-depth understanding of ourselves, how we operate in relation to others, and how our past experiences and traumas influence our feelings, attitudes, and actions.
There must have been a time when I didn’t do any calculations before I ate. When I ate what I wanted. When I could tell what I wanted.
I am a person who is always striving to be better and learn more about myself and the world around me. Recognizing that therapy might be an integral part of my growth over the course of my lifetime is freeing.
I’ve done a lot of work to find ways to manage my emotions when being with my partner’s family during the holidays. But perhaps more importantly, my partner and his family have done work too.
Here are some ways that we’ve managed to survive the holidays as a cross-class couple:
Don’t judge your feelings—or those of anyone else (which is easier said then done). There is no right or wrong way on the road of emotions. It’s as valid to have a cheerful Christmas as it is to have an unhappy one.
If you don’t believe whitesplaining is wrong, then you’re missing how the motivation behind whitesplaining is influenced by white supremacy. So let’s unpack the most common reasons why whitesplaining happens, to examine why it’s so misguided.
