Step 1. Think. Educate yourself.
Step 2. Listen.
Step 3. Listen more.
Step 4. Refrain from getting defensive.
Step 5. Give the oppressed space to speak their truth and voice their needs…
Step 1. Think. Educate yourself.
What identities and bodies are considered the norm – the ideal to strive towards? Under the guise of professionalism, women have been pressured to wear make up. Queer folks’ gender expression has been policed. People have been punished for showing emotions. Folks have been perceived as un/professional on the basis of their body size and shape. The banner of professionalism can mask multiple biases.
One of the most important things I’ve learned about dating while neurodivergent, mentally ill, and disabled is to seek support outside your relationship. My partners and I can’t be there for each other 24/7. Especially when dealing with mental illness, creating a support network outside of one or two people is incredibly important.
When you’ve been with someone of the so-called “opposite” gender for a while, it can start to feel like your queerness doesn’t really matter anymore, or like it isn’t even really there.
An ally should never feel that they deserve a reward, a thanks, or any recognition for the assistance they believe they provide. Simply put: It is not about you. It is about the people who feel they can trust you enough to not treat them horribly. You do not automatically gain access to spaces created by and for oppressed people because you are an ally.
The most important thing is to talk to them and keep talking. Kids will also pick up a lot from what they see and hear you do.
The objectification and fetishization of Asian women comes out of devastating wars and exclusionary immigration practices that get re-transcribed by books, movies, and other mass-consumed media.
While some folks might think that these sexual stereotypes are a “compliment” or “positive,” the ongoing violence perpetrated against Asian women as a direct result of these stereotypes get overlooked.
Our understandings of which feminine bodies are worthy of desire, are worthy of being deemed beautiful must change
Cis men are tremendously underserved when it comes to mental illness, despite the fact that they are just as likely to suffer from mental health issues as anyone else. Our society, however, has created a nearly impenetrable bubble around men
Throughout this exploration of non-monogamy, I have learned that I am primary partner. We are always with us. This relationship we have with ourselves is the only one that is guaranteed to last for our whole lives.
It was the first time I had seen older people corralled into nursing homes. Their simple requests for autonomy were ignored, desires for the simplest of pleasures were dismissed, and their day-to-day activities shifted… Check out the top four stereotypes & ways to dismantle them.
Another way I strive towards work-life balance is I try to find ways of breaking the binary between “work” and “home” in a way that replenishes my energy, passion, and capacity to work towards social justice.
Don’t assume you ‘know’ what their authentic gender is. Don’t assume you know what they are going through. Don’t assume anything.
Learn to love your incredible nonbinary self in whatever way best suits you, and date people who fit into that love and build it up.
I didn’t foresee how much unemployment would affect my mental health and sense of self, and I especially didn’t predict that it would cause me to become more distant from the people close to me. I found it ironic that it’s usually during times of hardship like this that a person would find themselves with the least means to take care of themselves.