We are multitudes. May each of our journeys with our identities endeavor towards love and learning.
I don’t want to hear about your diet*, and I especially don’t want to hear about what you are not eating.
Every time I mentioned that I was going to try to breastfeed I was told, “good choice,” by doctors and friends alike. So when I realized my body couldn’t handle breastfeeding, I felt like people around me thought I was making a “bad choice.”
Silencing us, erasing our existence and our identities is one of the most common ways media and western culture interact with Asian bodies and cultures.
What I have come to realize now, as an adult about to turn 25 later this year, is that I was not the only person, let alone the only boy, dealing with extreme cycles of binge eating and self-loathing.I often wonder how different my life might have been if I could have just talked to someone, had someone listen to what I was going through, and maybe be taken out of that darkness myself many years ago.
Their Body Political: A Subversive Burlesque and Variety Review, returns to Oakland this week on October 20th at the Oakland Metro Opera House.
Whether you have a FUPA because of a pregnancy or because you have added some extra pounds throughout the years, love that part of your body. It’s part of you. It’s part of your story, of your journey. No one else in this world has one just like yours. To practice radical self-love, we have to love every single inch of who we are.
When you show kids the possibilities that open up when they’re not trapped by the binary, they’ll start to see the world as a place of far more opportunities. They’ll grow to see people and gendered concepts as they truly are, and start to discover who they really are as a person.
Many people have asked the question, how can you transition if you’re not male or female? What are you transitioning to? The answer is different for every non-binary person. What we do know is we are all valid in our bodies and genders. The way we see ourselves and dress ourselves and take care of ourselves should be what makes us happy. It can be a struggle, for both cis and trans people, to love ourselves and our bodies.
Now more than ever is it important to hold ourselves, our communities and our governments accountable for harm done.
It was a gift that they never owned themselves. Their legacy — and my inheritance — is the fact that I always think of myself first. And that is revolutionary.
We’re allowed to feel what we feel, and we shouldn’t have to hide or mute our feelings just to reward someone for meaning well.
I Don’t Owe You Beauty: On Removing External Expectations & Celebrating Our Radically Nonconforming Selves
“It’s not my responsibility to be beautiful. I’m not alive for that purpose. My existence is not about how desirable you find me.” ~Warsan Shire
Mental Illness is not a “White Person Problem”: 4 Reasons Mental Illness is Ignored in the Latinx Community, and Why That Needs to End
Luckily, first and second generation Latinx folks are making changes to fix their communities, starting with marking importance on mental health, as much as physical health.
Disability metaphors abound in our culture, and they exist almost entirely as pejoratives. You see something wrong? Compare it to a disabled body or mind. Underlying this ignorance, of course, is an outsider’s view of disability as a Bad Thing. But those of us who inhabit disabled bodies have learned something essential: disability is what bodies do. They all change. They are all vulnerable. They all become disabled at some point. That is neither a Good Thing nor a Bad Thing. It is just an essential fact of human life.