7 Lessons Losing My Cat Taught Me About Life and Love April 10, 2016 by Liz Green Leave a Comment First of all, I wouldn’t wish this experience on my worst enemy. It was certainly an accelerated growth period, but so is puberty and we all know that sucked. Second of all, I will relieve you of any anxiety and soften the pity-pathos-party by letting you know she did come back on her own. We are reunited and she is healthy and all is well. And before you tell me that this is … [Read more...]
5 Things I Discovered About My Body After Major Surgery September 6, 2018 by Gillian Brown Leave a Comment Let me start off by stating what the more polite among us would dub ‘the bleeding obvious’: 2017 did not start well. And although the horrific state of politics in both the United States and my resident country of Britain would be more than enough reason for me to make this claim, my reasons are also a little more personal. When the clock struck midnight on New … [Read more...]
7 Things I Teach My Kids About Consent, Sexual Harassment, and Assault September 24, 2019 by Louisa Leontiades Leave a Comment During a crowded bus journey, my daughter's shrill four-year-old voice piped up clearly and succinctly above the hum of the ongoing conversation: "I want to have sex with [insert classmate here]." A silence, not unlike the one pervading the moment before the conductor raises his baton, fell in anticipation of my reply. And on behalf of all the sex-positive parents, I swallowed … [Read more...]
7 Things My Unruly, Curly Hair Taught Me About Being Unapologetically Latinx July 16, 2019 by Ella Mendoza Leave a Comment Growing up, people would always asked me about my hair, about my skin, about my eyes, about my mother, about my grandmother. Anti-blackness would prompt these questions to become inquiries, attempting to trace back lineage beyond dialogue, and into imaginary stories that may have been true or may have not. In their eyes, my hair symbolized something foreign, something … [Read more...]
7 Things My Loved Ones Got Right When I Came Out as Non-Binary September 28, 2019 by West Anderson Leave a Comment I didn't have the perfect experience coming out as transgender and non-binary. Many friends and acquaintances weren't able to change their perception of me and didn't understand the new terms I was using to describe myself. As I meet new people and make new friends, I still struggle daily with coming out. But I was lucky that there were a lot of things my loved ones did right … [Read more...]
5 Things I Did After Turning 40 That Changed How I Saw My Aging Self August 16, 2019 by Ginger Stickney Leave a Comment At thirty-eight I experienced a bit of a midlife crisis. Well, hardly midlife, but still a crisis nonetheless. Forty loomed on the horizon, and I felt a kind of aimless terror at that number. Some of it was kind of silly. What did a mature woman wear? Would I be forced by some secret fashion police to give up my band and anime t-shirts? Would I have to turn in my Chucks and … [Read more...]
7 Tips for Taking Care of Yourself When Dealing With Difficult Times May 8, 2018 by Gillian Brown Leave a Comment In September 2008, I emigrated with my family from Australia to the United Kingdom. We had been planning on emigrating for several years, but, thanks to incorrect information we received from immigration advisors at the time, we did not to apply for my visa until I was over eighteen. As a result, I was ineligible for the type of visa that most accurately reflected my … [Read more...]
Leaving Christianity and Seeking the Goddess: How Reshaping Religion Transformed My Self-Love April 20, 2019 by Ginger Stickney Leave a Comment When I was about seven, I remember going to a revival service with my grandmother. The preacher at one point launched into a sermon on women and makeup. He said, “Makeup isn’t bad, but remember, ladies: you paint the barn, not decorate it.” Those words haunted me throughout much of my life. Even now I can remember them and the way everyone laughed. But it underlined the … [Read more...]
Black Folks Deserve Rest and Relaxation: 10 Acts of Self-Care To Exorcise White Supremacy From Your Black Body May 14, 2019 by Tiffany Lee Leave a Comment A friend of mine recently asked me to close my eyes and imagine what Black liberation looked/smelled/tasted/sounded like to me. I told her: It smells floral; because I want Black folks to have flower gardens. It tastes like home cook meals; because I want Black people to have the time to cook if that’s what they into. It sounds like babies laughing; because I want Black … [Read more...]
Carving Out My Own Masculinity as a Disabled Trans Man May 9, 2019 by Gabe Moses Leave a Comment When I was in the Job Corps and had to choose a trade to learn, I chose the one that most of the male students and the masculine-identified AFAB (assigned female at birth) ones did: construction. It was, to the sensibilities of a bunch of working-class 16-to-24-year-olds, the only trade offered that was macho enough. And I sucked at it. I was clumsy. Motor coordination and … [Read more...]
I Think My Hair Hates Me April 4, 2015 by Aabye-Gayle Francis-Favilla Leave a Comment My hair and I have an on-again, off-again, love-hate relationship. It’s a complicated work in progress. Because I choose to braid my hair (with extensions), and because I often leave the braids in a bit (a lot) longer than I should, it is not uncommon for me to spend hours (and I don’t mean just two or three) unbraiding my hair. Quite often the task will drag into the … [Read more...]
Why the Words Stick in My Throat: Talking about Aging August 29, 2015 by Rachel Cohen-Rottenberg Leave a Comment This article is the third in a three-part series on aging. Source: Wear Your Life Well [Image description: The graphic consists of a lilac background with four rows of cartoon-like pictures, four pictures to a row. A figure of a woman in white pants stands in front of one of the pictures, blocking it from view. Each picture has a word at the top. The pictures … [Read more...]
Why the Words Stick in My Throat: Talking about Aging August 29, 2015 by Rachel Cohen-Rottenberg Leave a Comment [The graphic consists of a lilac background with four rows of cartoon-like pictures, four pictures to a row. A figure of a woman in white pants stands in front of one of the pictures, blocking it from view. Each picture has a word at the top. The pictures read Beauty, Skinny, Sexy, Fit, Hot Mama, Smart, Fine, Charm, Spirit, Dazzle, !, Adorn, Lust, Cute, and Attract. The woman … [Read more...]
Black Girls Cut Too: Self-Harm and Intergenerational Trauma July 5, 2019 by Stacey Stevenson, Guest Writer Leave a Comment Content note: detailed references to self-harm methods I started burning myself at 15. A friend and I burned ourselves in an attempt to engrave a symbol on our arms. After going to the local mall and buying a book on witchcraft, we decided we needed a symbol of our commitment to our new two-person coven. We drew up a draft of our symbol containing our initials (S & T) and … [Read more...]
Slow Down for a Moment: 10 Self-Care Acts That Take 5 Minutes or Less September 18, 2018 by Gillian Brown Leave a Comment What comes to mind when you think of self care? Do you picture luxurious bubble baths with champagne and a good book? Do you think of face masks? Of therapeutic yoga sessions? Of afternoons spent watching movies with friends, or running around with your kids in the park? Of glorious moments where your worries and responsibilities cease to be of importance? Or do you think … [Read more...]
Why Taking the Job Home Is Killing Us: Beyond the Binary of “Work” and “Home” September 30, 2016 by Ramona Rio Leave a Comment Three years ago, I got my first job out of graduate school as a therapist working with at-risk youth and their families. Because this was my first job out of grad school, I felt I had to give it my all. Not only that, I took a year off after school, during which I hit rock bottom in my own drug addiction. A year coming out of my drug addiction is when I got that job, and, … [Read more...]
Try a Little Tenderness: 3 Ways Being Tender Is a Political Act July 28, 2018 by Michal MJ Jones Leave a Comment Whenever I come into a new space, there’s always a sense of nervousness and anticipation. From the time I was small and up until now, I was painfully shy in new settings. I took time to come out of my shell and struggled to relate to other folks my age. Finding community that looked like me was even more challenging, which made finally finding it that much more meaningful. I … [Read more...]
Good Grief: Balancing Radical Self Love & Mourning July 7, 2016 by Aabye-Gayle Francis-Favilla 1 Comment In wake of the police murders of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile,we are publishing this piece to remind you it is okay and necessary to grieve in whatever way that looks like for you. Black death by white officers takes a communal toll and we must allow ourselves to process and create safe space to do so. “I will not say, “Do not weep,” for not all tears are an evil.” ~ … [Read more...]
10 Radical Parenting Resources for Folks of Color, Part 1 May 18, 2018 by Cecilia Caballero Leave a Comment This piece first appeared on the author’s blog, Chicana M(other)work, and is reprinted here by permission. Ever since I became a mother seven years ago, I have struggled to find parenting resources that reflect my visions for social justice. I am not interested in resources that reinforce neoliberal ideologies, rather, I want revolution! The following is a list of 10 … [Read more...]
My Struggle To Love With the Lights on After a Lifetime of Fatphobic Abuse July 9, 2019 by Anonymous 1 Comment The first time I know that I am fat and that is bad is when I am ten. That is the year I become a lifetime member of Weight Watchers. My mom says I asked to go on a diet. I don’t remember what precipitated this request, but I am sure she’s right. I weigh 135 pounds at the first weigh in. When I find that first weigh in card ten years and 150 pounds later, I cry. I was my adult … [Read more...]
