Trans People, Trauma, and Dissociative Identities September 13, 2018 by Elliott DeLine 3 Comments Many, if not most, of the trans people I’ve known have been coping with at least one form of trauma. We take a lot of abuse from society, often at an early age. I am transgender. I do not currently identify as the sex I was assigned at birth (female). I have also taken physical steps to alter my body and live my life perceived by others as male. However, my gender identity … [Read more...]
Dating While Trans: From Victim to Partner September 8, 2018 by Elliott DeLine Leave a Comment [Content warning: Sexually explicit language] I’ve written quite extensively about my experience of dating cis people while trans — specifically, while being a female-assigned-at-birth boy, with a vulva, who is sexually and romantically attracted to men. I’ve tried on and tolerated several labels for who I am: gay trans man, trans fag, and during my more desperate, crude … [Read more...]
Breaking My Childhood Body Shame: How I Learned to Love My Body Enough To Listen To It April 23, 2018 by Elliott DeLine Leave a Comment “Your stomach looks like dough,” my brother told me. He was probably about six, which places me at about nine. We were out on the boat with family, like we often were in the summer. “My stomach,” he said, “is flat and tan, but yours is soft and white like dough.” And he laughed, meanly. I don’t hold this against my little brother. He was young, and he was parroting the kind … [Read more...]
Gender Differences in Asperger’s: Being a Trans Guy and a Female-Socialized Aspie January 11, 2018 by Elliott DeLine 2 Comments I have never been quite like most people. I was aware of my difference from a very early age. It was as though I viewed the world in an entirely different way from the people around me. Things that they took seriously seemed inconsequential to me. Things that I took seriously seemed inconsequential to them. I felt perpetually misunderstood. Adults were always telling me I … [Read more...]
