Hot Sex After 50: 3 Myths and 3 Truths September 12, 2019 by Jaime Grant Leave a Comment As a longtime sex coach in my mid-50s, I find myself in a constant state of speaking truth to power when it comes to sex and aging. How is hot sex after 50 different from hot sex after 40? Or 20? How is it different from hot sex in the aftermath of divorce? Or during the hottest love affair of our lives? The point is: hot sex matters. It generates and releases energy. It … [Read more...]
Abuse Happens Everywhere: 8 Questions To Ask About Respecting BDSM Boundaries June 7, 2019 by Jaime Grant Leave a Comment I came of age during a moment when lesbian feminist culture was booming -– music festivals, women’s bookstores and lesbian feminist political projects were cropping up everywhere. And one of the most damaging and fallacious assumptions of that era was that women were inherently non-violent, that lesbian relationships offered a haven from abuse, that simply because our … [Read more...]
9 Reasons Why Acting in Solidarity for Racial Justice Is Preferable to “Allyship” May 30, 2019 by Jaime Grant Leave a Comment There is almost nothing more dangerous in the lives and livelihoods of Black men and women than a well-intentioned white woman with no political framework for her interactions across race. White women’s well-being, our ‘safety,’ is constantly deployed to justify white supremacist violence, especially police violence. Our casual conversations with Black and brown people on the … [Read more...]
10 Ways To Raise Radically Sex-Positive Kids January 28, 2019 by Jaime Grant Leave a Comment One of my key jobs as a parent is to raise kids who love themselves and their sexuality. My own childhood was filled with silences and horrible caveats about sex. My mother told me repeatedly that she would ‘snap my spine’ if I had sex outside of monogamous marriage. And that sex ‘was not all that it what was cracked up to be.’ The only other ‘education’ I … [Read more...]
5 Things People Get Wrong About Desire August 31, 2018 by Jaime Grant Leave a Comment Content note: This article includes (non-detailed) references to fantasizing about sexual violence The not-so-funny paradox about sex in our lives is that we are swamped by it but honest, intimate conversation about our desires is hard to come by. Sex sells it all, from toothpaste to car insurance. We are advice-d to death about it via endless columns in glossy magazines. … [Read more...]
5 Reasons To Celebrate Interdependence Day July 4, 2018 by Jaime Grant Leave a Comment The myth of independence is one of the foundational and corrosive myths of American life. On July 4th, 1776, when the US declared “independence” from its colonizer, it did so on the backs of the Indigenous people whose lands they’d stolen and the African people whose enslavement and labor would build the US into the ‘prosperous’ ‘superpower’ that forms the cornerstone of the … [Read more...]
10 Ways to Support Sex-Positive Kids June 8, 2018 by Jaime Grant 1 Comment One of my key jobs as a parent is to raise kids who love themselves and their sexuality. My own childhood was filled with silences and horrible caveats about sex. My mother told me repeatedly that she would ‘snap my spine’ if I had sex outside of monogamous marriage. And that sex ‘was not all that it what was cracked up to be.’ (A lot of violent cracking … [Read more...]
7 Ways to Support Someone Who is Struggling with Their Gender Identity April 13, 2018 by Jaime Grant Leave a Comment Don’t assume you ‘know’ what their authentic gender is. Don’t assume you know what they are going through. Don’t assume anything. Listen. Listen. Listen. Open yourself. Hear. Hear. Hear. Every person’s gender journey is distinctly theirs; there are no cookie-cutter ten steps to success. Who is this person? What matters to them? How do they talk about their gender? … [Read more...]
A 1-On-1 With BLM: Is Black Lives Matter a Radical Self love Movement? February 3, 2018 by Jaime Grant Leave a Comment By: Jaime Grant Jaime M. Grant, a white lesbian organizer who grew up in Boston in the 60s, interviews Daunasia Yancey a Black queer, femme leader of Black Lives Matter Boston as their conversion reveals the unapologetic work we all strive to do within ourselves and our community. Jaime: One of the things that’s striking about BLM is the emphasis on love and the body and … [Read more...]
It’s Never Been More Obvious to Us: The Burlesque Body is Political October 18, 2016 by Jaime Grant Leave a Comment In the midst of what can only be described as horrifying electoral campaign season, we are reminded that women, femmes, feminists, queer and trans folks – in the midst of resistance to overwhelming sexual and state violence against us – we are still creating the lives we dream of. Resistance can be joyful. It can remind us of the possibilities, it can usher in new … [Read more...]
