8 Lessons That Show How Emotional Labor Defines Women’s Lives September 18, 2019 by Kai Cheng Thom, Guest Writer 4 Comments Content note: This article contains a description of incestuous childhood sexual abuse. The article was originally published on EverydayFeminism.com and is republished with permission. “I want to say: we come from difference, Jonas, You have been taught to grow out, I have been taught to grow in.” – Lily Myers, “Shrinking Women” It’s an early spring evening in Montreal, and … [Read more...]
9 Ways to Be Accountable When You’ve Been Abusive July 11, 2019 by Kai Cheng Thom, Guest Writer Leave a Comment This article originally appeared in EverydayFeminism.com and is reprinted by permission. As I sit in my bed and begin to type (beds are my favorite typing places), there is a part of me that says, Don’t write this article. There is a part of me that still resonates deeply with the fear and shame that surround the topics of abuse and intimate partner violence – the taboo that … [Read more...]
7 Ways Social Justice Language Can Become Abusive in Intimate Relationships January 23, 2019 by Kai Cheng Thom, Guest Writer Leave a Comment This article originally appeared in EverydayFeminism.com and is reprinted by permission. "It’s that bone gnawed moment when you realize ‘The Community’ will do nothing to stop him from showing up at your backdoor in the middle of the night with the rifle he bought for the revolution” —Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha, “so what the fuck does consciousness mean anyway” There … [Read more...]
Sociopaths, Borderlines, and Psychotics: 3 Mental Illnesses We Must Stop Hating On August 5, 2018 by Kai Cheng Thom, Guest Writer 1 Comment This article was originally published on EverydayFeminsim.com and is republished with permission. (Content warning: discussion of trauma, violence, suicide) When I was nineteen years old, I enrolled in a class called Abnormal Psychology. It was a survey course on mental illness, and it was the first step in my path to becoming a social worker and psychotherapist. At the … [Read more...]
