This article originally appeared in Foglifter April 2016 and is reprinted by permission. There’s a box where my anxiety lives. This box is on OK Cupid. To check, or not to check: “I do not want to see or be seen by straight people.” A friend of mine quipped that it is the most satisfying box to check on the internet. Maybe for them. For me it is fraught with tension … [Read more...]
7 Ridiculous Things NOT to Say to Bisexual Folks
Over the years I have been subjected to many biphobic remarks. Biphobia is not just a specific expression of homophobia for folks who are “partly” gay. Biphobia comes from the queer community and straight community alike, and in my experience, is an expression of binary and either/or thinking that is so destructive to our world in many ways. These below are … [Read more...]
3 Ways That The Foundation of Good Boundaries is Good Self-Care
1. Hold your own boundaries: Heal yourself, heal your communities What is self-care? It can mean spiritual connection to whatever is bigger than us—the moon, the ocean, a forest, a community, a friendship, a partnership, a movement, a creative project. It can mean loving oneself with the tenderness and care you would give to a newborn. And part of it is giving … [Read more...]
