It took me a long time to come out to myself as bi-sexual and queer. I came-out as queer as a young adult. I have yet to “come-out” to my family as queer. However, I have come-out to my family as a non-binary trans-femme, but they are in denial about my gender identity. They still presume me to be a straight cis person. Although they have met my partner, who is … [Read more...]
How Your Everyday Language Reinforces Homophobia & Transphobia
Our spoken language is rooted in assumptions based from the worldview of cis people and heteronormativity. Our language is also deeply rooted in patriarchy. It is through our everyday language that homophobia and transphobia, essentially cis-hetero-patriarchy, expresses itself. The titles we so commonly use in reference to address family members all refer to binary gender … [Read more...]
7 Ways We Attempt to Build Safety In a Less Safe World for Trans Folk
Being trans is to constantly live a life in terror. But, being trans also means to live a life in one’s own true selfhood. This is the duality of being trans, to live a life of suffering and agony, and to also live a life of self-determination and authenticity. Living a life of terror is to experience various forms of violence on a continuum. From one’s family and friends … [Read more...]
“How Can I Best Support You?” & 6 Other Questions to Ask When Your Friend is Suffering
When I hit rock-bottom in my drug addiction and mental health, I spent a whole year and a half recovering. Six months of that time, I slept almost every day until two or three in the afternoon. I would not say that I had nothing to live for, but I felt there was nothing in my immediate future to work towards. I did not even see it as time to “work on myself” because I was … [Read more...]
Doce maneras de saber si tu cansancio se debe al trabajo emocional y cómo construir limites saludables.
Se ha escrito mucho respecto al trabajo emocional en los últimos años. Particularmente, son las mujeres quienes han escrito sobre el trabajo emocional que deben soportar en este mundo en sus distintas variantes, específicamente con relación a varones cis y a sus propias familias. Como mujer trans con el privilegio de tener piel clara, he tenido mi cuota de trabajo … [Read more...]
