Lucky To Be Alive?: The Ways We Tell Disabled People They Shouldn’t Be Here October 8, 2019 by Karrie Higgins, Guest Writer Leave a Comment 104Share with your friendsYour NameYour EmailRecipient EmailEnter a MessageI read this article and found it very interesting, thought it might be something for you. The article is called Lucky To Be Alive?: The Ways We Tell Disabled People They Shouldn’t Be Here and is located at https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/lucky-to-be-alive/.CaptchaSubmitThis article originally appeared on the blog a true testimony under the title “Lucky to be alive” and is reprinted by permission. Content note: This article contains references to suicide and sexual abuse. A stranger said to me, “Go kill yourself.” Does he know I am four times more likely to do that because of my epilepsy? That my bipolar and PTSD and history of sexual abuse tick up my risk sky high? Does he know I have already tried? More Radical Reads: 7 Ways to Support Someone Who May Be Suicidal I remember in my 2016 newsfeed, there was headline after headline about Zika and abortion. Sentences like this one: “Zika could easily entrap American women in areas with standing water that breeds mosquitoes, closed clinics, no access to the later abortions a microcephaly diagnosis might require.” Require. I have a neural tube birth defect. I have a too-small skull and a screwed-up, epileptic brain. What do able people think should have been required for me? Able people pretend, Of course we don’t mean you! But they do. They do. Before able people know I am epileptic: You are so selfish for not wanting a child! After able people know I am epileptic: You are so selfless for sparing a child a disability! It wasn’t that long ago that I could have been locked up and sterilized. In my lifetime, even. Able people did that. Able people still do that, not with laws but with shame. Instead of locking me up, they tell me it’s so, so good that I don’t want to reproduce. Which, when you think about it, is a lot like saying I should never have been born. They want me erased from the genetic record. They want me contained, like a virus. More Radical Reads: Seeking Great-Aunt Sarah: Learning from the Abuse of My Disabled Ancestor I am pro-choice. I am not talking about choice. I am talking about how it feels as a disabled person to witness panic about disabled bodies coming into this world. I am not talking about the nightmare Catch-22 of being forbidden access to birth control and abortion and being told not to get pregnant. I am talking about how it feels as a disabled person to witness panic about disabled bodies coming into this world. You say: But we don’t mean all disabled babies! Zika is different! Let me repeat: Before able people know I am epileptic: You are so selfish for not wanting a child! After able people know I am epileptic: You are so selfless for sparing a child a disability! It’s not just Zika. Ever since I got my walking cane, able people call it a weapon. They joke that I can use it to beat people up. They joke that I should get one with a concealed sword. I started joking about it, too, even though I don’t think I could beat up anyone with my cane. I need the cane. I fall without the cane. Still, something in that image of my cane as an open-carry weapon speaks to me. I like the idea of my mobility device as a weapon. I like it because I know, deep down, my basic existence is under attack every second of every day. I am lucky to be alive. I am lucky able people let me be born at all. Karrie Higgins is a writer in Salt Lake City, Utah, currently at work on How Will the Epileptics Dream If You Stop Burning Gasoline?, a grimoire/memoir about the nexus between magic, forensics, and faith. [Feature Image: A black and white photograph of a person sitting on a bed. Their torso is slouching downward toward the bed as they look at the camera with a serious expression on their face. They have short hair and dark-rimmed glasses.] TBINAA is an independent, queer, Black woman run digital media and education organization promoting radical self love as the foundation for a more just, equitable and compassionate world. If you believe in our mission, please contribute to this necessary work at PRESSPATRON.com/TBINAA We can’t do this work without you! As a thank you gift, supporters who contribute $10+ (monthly) will receive a copy of our ebook, Shed Every Lie: Black and Brown Femmes on Healing As Liberation. Supporters contributing $20+ (monthly) will receive a copy of founder Sonya Renee Taylor’s book, The Body is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self Love delivered to your home. Need some help growing into your own self love? Sign up for our 10 Tools for Radical Self Love Intensive! 104