This article originally appeared in EverydayFeminism.com under the title "4 Ways White People Can Process Their Emotions Without Bringing the White Tears" and is reprinted by permission. If you’re a white person who has been in many activist spaces, then you’ve probably experienced a specific, often unspoken ground rule: There’s no room for white tears in this … [Read more...]
6 Questions to Ask If You Have More Privilege Than Your Partner
This piece was originally published by EverydayFeminism.com and is republished with permission. (Content Warning: mention of death; eating disorders; misogynist, racist, anti-queer, and anti-trans violence) I learned to be a girlfriend through ’90s American rom-coms. 90% of the time, I learned, I had to be laughing or cutely disagreeing with my white leading man. At … [Read more...]
When Helping Turns Into Hovering: 6 Times Being an ‘Ally’ Can Make Things Worse
As a person with many identities that are marginalized in our society, being Afro-Latina, femme, and many others, I search for support within my communities, and at times outside of my communities. In these communities I have had to build a rapport with what we call an ‘ally.’ An ally is defined as, “combine or unite a resource or commodity with (another) for mutual … [Read more...]
