My very first experience of shame (that I can remember) occurred in the third grade after my family had emigrated from the Philippines to Canada. We were asked what we had had for breakfast that morning, and I volunteered "Vegetable soup!" as an answer. In response, I heard a chorus of laughter and a "What kind of weirdo has soup for breakfast?" On the surface, this … [Read more...]
Crecer en una familia gordofóbica
En palabras inmortales de Brianna en la película clásica A por todas: Todo o Nada: “Siempre he tenido un culo grande. Viene de familia. Somos una familia culona”. Mi familia nunca hizo a los “delgados” bien. Mi padre siempre ha estado entre “normal” y “achuchable”, mi madre tenía una considerable y marcada figura de reloj de arena, y mis dos hermanos … [Read more...]
What Is Emotional Incest?: Surviving Emotional Abuse in Childhood
Content Warning: This article uses the term emotional incest and discusses childhood emotional abuse and harmful parental relationships. The first time my therapist mentioned the term emotional incest, I was taken aback. The term alone elicits a gut-level reaction. She wrote down the book information for me to look up when I was ready. I wasn’t ready for quite some … [Read more...]
