Rejecting Fetishization and Lack: Claiming the Fullness of My Black Demisexuality December 21, 2020 by Grace B. Freedom Leave a Comment By Grace B. Freedom My name is Grace and I am a gray demisexual ace. Rewind: gray doesn’t really suit me. It doesn’t feel vibrant enough. I can be a gray demisexual as it pertains to generic understandings of asexuality, but I want to formally declare that I want a new color. Perhaps I will be a gold-flecked cyan demisexual with rich metallic hints and deep blues … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Help Kids Think Outside the Gender Binary November 20, 2019 by Maya Gittelman Leave a Comment When I was in middle school, I would ask my mom if I could watch certain TV shows other kids were watching: FRIENDS, Scrubs, and so on. She said sure (she’s pretty chill about stuff like that), but she told me there were a lot of jokes I wouldn’t get. She was right. I didn’t understand why the laugh track played when Ross forcibly wouldn’t let his toddler son play with a … [Read more...]
3 Steps Toward Good Sex Beyond the Binary: Having Sex with A Non-Binary Person, Even When That Person is You November 11, 2019 by Maya Gittelman Leave a Comment Gender is a spectrum, which means that between and outside of the constructs of male and female, there exists an entire range of gender identities. We often speak of “transgender” and “cisgender” identities: “cisgender” indicating that one’s gender matches the gender they were assigned at birth, and “transgender” indicating that one’s gender does not. However, we still often … [Read more...]
Transicionar como persona no binaria June 2, 2019 by West Anderson Leave a Comment [Descripción de imagen: dos fotos, una al lado de la otra, de le autore de cintura para abajo. Elle está de pie. Es una persona joven, delgada y blanca. En la foto de la izquierda está vistiendo camisa de cuadros con rayas azules, moradas y grises, un reloj verde, vaqueros negros, y zapatos con formas azules, moradas y grises. En la foto de la derecha lleva un vestido rosa con … [Read more...]
My Queer Sex-Positive Life: Unlearning the Gendered Sexual Shame That Kept Me Disempowered May 8, 2019 by Jamila Reddy Leave a Comment This article was originally published by Jamila Reddy under its original title "Sex-Positivity Means Unlearning Shame" and is republished with permission. When I was five years old, my parents gave my sister and me a book called Where Did I Come From. Published in 1973, the book featured illustrations and explanations of how babies are made. On the front and back covers … [Read more...]
5 Ways Cis People Can Help Make Life Safer for Trans Folks April 11, 2019 by West Anderson Leave a Comment Every day, I have to make the decision about whether or not to come out as transgender. There's a good reason why so much of my friend group is composed of trans people. I don't have to explain myself to them, I don't have to worry whether they are seeing me as I truly am, and I don't have to worry about any unintended microaggressions they might say relating to my gender. … [Read more...]
#MeToo: A Letter to The Women Who Exclude Trans & Non-binary People from “Safe Spaces” October 27, 2018 by Klie 2 Comments A letter to those who exclude nonbinary trans folk from your safe spaces: I started living my truth as transgender and nonbinary almost a year ago. I’ve been out as queer for many years. And I’ve been in this feminine body my entire life. It’s been a complicated journey, especially for someone who grew up in the South wearing GRITS merch. Having gone through the whole … [Read more...]
When the Gender Binary Puts A Damper on Date Night July 3, 2018 by Shannon Weber Leave a Comment I am a cis queer femme woman partnered with a non-binary queer person. While I enjoy so many things about our five-year relationship, including the fact that people recognize me as queer when we are out together, my babe is basically misgendered wherever they go. Even by other queer people. It’s rare for them to have a validating experience when it comes to gender, especially … [Read more...]
8 Ways Non-Binary People Rock! June 28, 2018 by Halee Kirkwood Leave a Comment Those of us who have genders that leap ecstatically out of the gender binary are stellar beings that disrupt, re-define, and challenge traditional conceptions of gender identity and expression, and there are just about as many ways to express and live a non-binary gender identity as there are stars in the sky. Let's explore some of the ways that non-binary people push … [Read more...]
What It Means To Be MultiGender: The Questions Many Have, But Are Afraid To Ask June 23, 2018 by Mihran Nersesyan Leave a Comment There is an infinite diversity of genders in the world. Each person has a totally unique interpretation and relationship with any gender they inhabit. There are at least as many genders as there have been humans who have lived. I say “at least” because as it turns out, a person can embody more than one gender in their lifetime. They can even embody more than one gender at … [Read more...]
I’m a Non-Binary Feminist: How I Negotiate My Gender & Politics in the Workplace and Beyond January 24, 2018 by X. Rio, Guest Writer Leave a Comment Transitioning Grief What does it mean to be a feminist ally? And, for me, what does it mean to be a feminist ally who was assigned-male-at-birth (amab), raised and socialized as a man for most of my life, but who now identifies as a non-binary transfemme? I began questioning my gender identity when I was 28 years old, and “came-out” when I was 30. Transitioning is a … [Read more...]
Where Do I Fit In? On Being Non-binary and Confused November 2, 2017 by J. Latso Leave a Comment Where do I fit in when I identify as nonbinary? This is a question I've been asking myself for a while now, especially since the last time I wrote here it was about my gender identity. I identify as a demiguy (he/him or they/them), which is on the nonbinary spectrum of gender identities. The last time I wrote about identifying as such, I was worried about the idea of coming … [Read more...]
Is Healthy Masculinity a Lost Cause?: A Non-binary Person’s Thoughts on New Masculinity October 2, 2017 by Mihran Nersesyan Leave a Comment Toxic masculinity is the subject of much discussion in our radical self-love community. Fashioning a new masculinity that counters and dismantles its toxic counterpart is an essential element in our our fight against cis-hetero-patriarchy. We’re making great strides by having these discussions, and as masculine people, by seeking to embrace accountability. We’re posing many … [Read more...]
3 pasos hacia un buen sexo mas allá de lo binario: tener sexo con una persona no binaria, incluso si esa persona eres tú. July 31, 2016 by Maya Gittelman Leave a Comment ¿Qué es el género? El género es un espectro, lo que significa que dentro y fuera de las construcciones de varón y hembra, existe toda una gama de identidades de género. A menudo hablamos de "trans" y "identidades cisgénero": "cisgénero" indicando que el propio género coincide con el género que se les asignó al nacer, y "trans" indicando que uno de los géneros no lo … [Read more...]
