No ser monógama me ha resuelto mis necesidad de sentirme más segura y cómoda en las relaciones románticas. Esto sorprende a mucha gente, cuando lo comparto, sobre todo, porque desde mi experiencia, mucha gente con la que he hablado la considera que ese comportamiento es una fuente de ansiedad, inseguridad, poca comunicación y falta de compromiso. Es una opinión común pensar … [Read more...]
Let's be real: the vast majority of dating advice is aggressively cisheteronormative. From popular magazines and dating advice books to talk shows and Bachelor Nation, we have a plethora of suggestions on how cishet, white, able-bodied, upper-middle-class folks can date each other within cishet, patriarchal structures. Fighting over the bill only to "let" the man pay, dressing … [Read more...]
'Have you thought about how a polyamorous relationships works with kids?' my colleague asked as I suppressed a smile. I've written a book about it, I was tempted to say. Do they sense any instability? I've spent hours at a time analysing their actions and reactions. Are they at more risk from bullying due to the unconventional nature of their parents' relationship? We've … [Read more...]
“Bae, wifey, partner, open, oh my…" Find and use language you connect with. This is about your intimacy practices, don’t settle for language you don’t love. I personally hate the word polyamorous. It sounds too clinical, too science-y to me, like polygon, polyester, polytechnic … I can’t connect with it so I don’t use it. (Also, heads up for those who do … [Read more...]
My mouth hovers a millimetre or so away from the surface. The bath water is warm and ripple free. The sound of my heartbeat echoes in my ears. If only the water level was slightly higher, I would inhale this vaguely rose-scented peace, return to the void and sink into blissful oblivion. My relaxed heart thuds more slowly and I observe it, contentedly, before pulling the plug … [Read more...]
The Body Is Not an Apology
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