How I Lost My Religion — And Temporarily My Empathy as a Judgmental Atheist July 17, 2018 by A.X. Ruiz 1 Comment The fact that my father never came to mass with the rest of us didn’t bother me as a child. It registered in the same capacity as the fact that he worked night shifts or that Spanish was spoken in my house as often as English — distinctions between my home life and that of my peers, but nothing worth an existential crisis. I was seven or eight when I stood in our garage and … [Read more...]
Let’s F#ck It Up: 3 Things They Don’t Want You To Know About Taking A Revolutionary Selfie March 10, 2018 by Cortez Wright 2 Comments “This is an experiment in not being afraid of seeing myself. Of not being afraid of seeing my body. And, more importantly for me, not being afraid of other people seeing these things. So, enjoy the photos. I'm not sure all of them will be flattering, but I hope to have more than 314 pictures by the end of this year.” These are the words that opened my first self-love photo … [Read more...]
We Are What We Eat: Food Justice As An Act of Radical Self Love March 6, 2018 by Toni Bell 2 Comments I came late to the food justice movement. I wasn’t even really aware of what food justice was again until 2004 when I first heard of calls to boycott Taco Bell by tomato pickers. I was living in Tampa, Florida at the time and had to commute past farms in order to get to work. As news of the boycott spread, I began to see the people working in those fields who were mostly … [Read more...]
What I Teach My Son When I Say I Am Fat: Practicing Self Love for Our Children’s Sake September 21, 2017 by Rev. Katie Norris 4 Comments This piece first appeared on the author's blog, Bipolar Spirit, and is reprinted here by permission. You can read more of Katie's work on her site RevKatieNorris.com. In When Your Mother Says She's Fat by Kasey Edwards, the author writes a letter to her mom about what she learned when her mother insulted herself about her weight. What Edwards learned struck a cord for me – and … [Read more...]
Maintaining Your Safe Space August 23, 2017 by Gillian Brown 1 Comment The Body Is Not an Apology’s goal is to share the myriad ways human bodies unshackle the box of “beauty” and fling it wide open for all of us to access. Our goal is to redefine the unapologetic, radically amazing magnificence of EVERY BODY on this planet. When we do, we change the world! Join the movement and become a subscriber today! bit.ly/NoBodiesInvisible. Like many … [Read more...]
Yes, I Deserve Help: Disability and Asking for What We Need June 11, 2017 by West Anderson Leave a Comment I went back to college this past fall after taking two years off. I've always been good at school, often to the detriment of my mental health, but I'd assumed that I would be able to pick up where I’d left off and keep up with the workload demanded of me. It wasn’t true. Suddenly, the workload was too much for me. During my first three weeks back in school, I must have had a … [Read more...]
On This Edge: Creating Safe Space for Gender-Neutral Youth June 1, 2017 by West Anderson Leave a Comment I started going to Rowe Camp, a small summer camp nestled in the mountains of western Massachusetts, when I was twelve years old. I fell in love with the camp immediately and spent every subsequent summer of my teenage years in the verdant woods and graffitied cabins of Rowe. Everyone I've met who has gone to Rowe laments how hard it is to explain what is special about the camp … [Read more...]
5 Myths That Are Keeping You From Having a Fabulous Fattitude September 19, 2016 by Nadia Nadeem, Guest Writer 1 Comment by Nadia Nadeem, Guest Writer Source: Tumblr [Image description: On a white background in blue print, the graphic reads, “Fat is not a bad word. It is not synonymous with ugly, lazy, unattractive, disgusting, or unhealthy. It’s just another adjective to describe how you look. Stop putting stigma on fat. Fat means fat. Nothing more. Nothing less.” The sign is pinned, … [Read more...]
6 Things We Want Sophie and All Little Kids to Know the Next Time They Feel Pressured by Barbie or Anyone Else! October 7, 2015 by Rev. Katie Norris Leave a Comment Facebook was ablaze yesterday with a sweet little girl named Sophie who was being interviewed by her father in the wake of a blue nail polish and Barbie debacle. Sophie was upset and imploring her daddy to understand that she was unduly pressured by those sneaky Barbies to paint their nails. We felt such compassion for sweet Sophie that we wrote her a letter we hope she … [Read more...]
The New York Times, Racism, and the Politics of Discomfort July 20, 2015 by Rachel Cohen-Rottenberg 1 Comment On July 1, The New York Times Op-Docs page published a short documentary called A Conversation with White People on Race (transcript below). The video runs a little over five minutes. https://youtu.be/xXow7olFyIM My take away? If this is how white people have a conversation about race, it’s perfectly apparent why nothing is changing. The video features white people, … [Read more...]
Bad Picture Monday: Loving Yourself Right Now July 15, 2015 by Quita Tinsley 1 Comment A picture is worth a thousand words: An old saying that many of us recognize. So I would love to know what our selfies say. For most of us, selfies mean our best photos. And, most times, taking a great selfie is a full-on production. You have to find the right angle, the right lighting, and the right caption. I have perfected my selfies over time. My best angle is a … [Read more...]
Dark Night of the Body: Surviving PTSD and Traumatic Brain Injury July 6, 2015 by E. Amato Leave a Comment Have you ever lived in a mind that wasn’t yours? Not in a science-fiction kind of way, but in a hall-of-mirrors, not-very-funhouse kind of way? In a where’s-the-Google-map-to-my-brain kind of way? In 2004, when I read in The New York Times that writer and performance artist Spalding Gray’s body had been found in the East River, it was clear to me that he had been living … [Read more...]
Stealing Fire: Taking Our Power From the Mainstream Movements July 1, 2015 by Mel Baggs Leave a Comment This post first appeared on the author's blog Ballastexistenz and is reprinted by permission. Your politics have a problem when they contradict the real-life experiences of the people they’re supposed to be about. Your politics have an even bigger problem when the people they’re supposed to be about become afraid to describe our real-life experiences for fear of angering … [Read more...]
My Self-Care Kit June 28, 2015 by Gillian Brown Leave a Comment [Content warning: This article talks in-depth about symptoms of General Anxiety, Depression, and Health Anxiety.] For as long as I can remember, I have struggled with mental health troubles. I was officially diagnosed with Depression and General Anxiety about ten years ago. Since then, I’ve had some therapy and been on and off various antidepressants. I have been on my … [Read more...]
Radical Self-Love and Mother’s Day Blues June 14, 2015 by Awilda González Leave a Comment Mother’s Day: a day to celebrate your mom, to acknowledge all she’s done for you and how much she has sacrificed in the name of motherhood. If you are a mother, as soon as May hits, you anxiously await the day and anticipate receiving flowers, being taken out to dinner, and even receiving a gift. I’ve been a mother for almost 29 years of my life — and, of course, I’ve been … [Read more...]
Loving Past the Line: Three Examples of Radical Compassion May 16, 2015 by A.X. Ruiz 1 Comment As required reading for a workshop class, I recently read Lena Dunham’s Not That Kind of Girl. I found it pretty “meh” as far as essay collections go, but one bit stuck out for me: a description of how Dunham’s grandmother “had fled her sheltered life for Mount Holyoke College, Yale nursing school, and then the army, where she was stationed in Germany and Japan suturing wounds … [Read more...]
