Why I’m Over the Pressure to “Find Love” as an Asexual Person November 7, 2019 by Dawy Rkasnuam Leave a Comment I wish it were more acceptable in this world for people to live life without romantic love — without having it, without wanting it, and without waiting around for it. What tires me most about our cultural view of romantic love is the idea that, even if we don’t have it or want it now, romantic love will ultimately make its way into our lives, and it’s going to change … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why You Might Not Talk to the Guy in the Wheelchair — And Why I Wish You Would November 6, 2019 by Ryan_Arnold Leave a Comment I have to overcome a lot of issues related to my disability. I was born with cerebral palsy, so I’ve encountered challenges from day one. When you add the fact that I'm a gay man living in the Deep South, a lot of times it’s hard just to live. I’ve only had two romantic relationships in my life. The first was for a little over two years, and my second and most recent one … [Read more...]
Why I’m Wary of Being Friends With You When None of Your Friends Are Marginalized November 5, 2019 by Caleb Luna Leave a Comment One day I was grappling with shame and self-consciousness over my tendency to take stock of the kinds of people new people in my life surround themselves with. I was thinking about this in relation to bodies and, specifically, race and fatness. Until that moment I had internalized this behavior as unnecessary, judgmental, and even shallow. But I had a realization that allowed … [Read more...]
El Amor Romantico Nos Mata: Quien Cuida De Nosotros Cuando Somos Solteros? August 11, 2019 by Caleb Luna and Ana Maroto Leave a Comment Soy una persona deprimida, pero deprimida es un verbo. Considero mi depresión como el resultado de una posición social y de la inevitable historia de colonización, racismo, del estigma de la gordura y de la discriminación. Estoy tomando antidepresivos, pero éstos solo pueden reprogramar la química de mi cerebro y no la realidad social y material en la que vivo. No puede … [Read more...]
The Secret Cult of Loneliness February 26, 2019 by Sonya Renee Taylor Leave a Comment This article was originally published for PowellsBooks.org and is reprinted by permission from the writer. I have the distinct feeling I am not supposed to write this. As if by virtue of my melanin I have been contractually bound to an unspoken creed, the first two rules of Black Woman Fight Club: Rule #1: We do not talk about being lonely. Rule #2: We DO NOT talk about being … [Read more...]
When the Gender Binary Puts A Damper on Date Night July 3, 2018 by Shannon Weber Leave a Comment I am a cis queer femme woman partnered with a non-binary queer person. While I enjoy so many things about our five-year relationship, including the fact that people recognize me as queer when we are out together, my babe is basically misgendered wherever they go. Even by other queer people. It’s rare for them to have a validating experience when it comes to gender, especially … [Read more...]
There is No Standard For Romance: On Being Single with a Facial Difference February 8, 2018 by Alice Wynne Leave a Comment 1. Do not, under any circumstances, feel like you need to define your selfhood to anyone else. 2. As someone with a facial difference who has been socialized as a girl, I always feel like I need to make a bold statement for my desires or activity in regards to romance, like beat my chest and rip my hair and yell in the camera’s eye, “This is me!,” as every move I make or … [Read more...]
