“But He Never Hit Me”: How I Realized My Partner Was Emotionally Abusive December 19, 2019 by Kristina Brandt, Guest Writer Leave a Comment Content Note: This article contains discussion of intimate partner violence and attempted suicide. This article was originally published on xoJane and cross-posted to Everyday Feminism. It appears with permission of Everyday Feminism. He spent over a year trying to convince me to be with him. We were friends for two years and became close. When one of his relationships ended … [Read more...]
Letting Go of the Fantasy: 7 Ways to Heal Toxic Family Relationships December 18, 2019 by Mary Robinson Leave a Comment Family dynamics can be tricky. We know, after all, that no family is perfect. Familial relationships can be some of the best support systems, but they can also be difficult and harmful if you're dealing with toxic family members. When you've committed to living a life of radical self-love, having strategies for how to respond to and even heal your toxic family relationships is … [Read more...]
3 Ways Toxic Masculinity Harmed Me as a Male Survivor of Abuse December 11, 2019 by Gabe Moses Leave a Comment It’s hard for me to write the story about being in an abusive relationship. Not because it’s hard for me to talk about it, though sometimes it is. Not because I’m still carrying shame and self-doubt or because I might trigger my own trauma responses, though I am and I might. It’s because writing about being a male survivor of intimate partner abuse, especially when your abuser … [Read more...]
It’s Okay To Forgive, or Not: Grieving When You’re Estranged From Your Family December 2, 2019 by Elliot Kukla Leave a Comment Not long ago, I sat with a sweet little old man who was dying. (This is a regular occurrence for me; I’m a rabbi who works in hospice.) The man’s one dying wish was simple: to speak to his teenage granddaughter on the phone in Australia before he died. His selfish daughter was too “bitter” about the past to allow this to happen, he said. His request seemed so reasonable, his … [Read more...]
How To Unwrap Yourself From a Toxic Relationship When the Person Is Gone — But Not the Pain August 26, 2019 by Mary Robinson Leave a Comment It has been almost two years since I ended my last long-term relationship. It seems so strange that we have now been apart longer than we were together. When it began, I thought I had finally found my person. I soon experienced anxiety and doubt after many red flags started to surface. I had longed to love and share my life with someone and I settled for a toxic relationship … [Read more...]
Desentramar las capas: Sobrevivir al abuso emocional infantil June 23, 2019 by Emanuel Urrea and Mary Robinson Leave a Comment Advertencia de contenido: Este artículo utiliza el termino incesto emocional, discute el abuso emocional infantil y las relaciones parentales nocivas. La primera vez que mi terapeuta mencionó el termino incesto emocional me agarró desprevenida. El termino en si genera una reacción de rechazo inmenso. Me anotó la información de un libro para que lo buscara cuando estuviese … [Read more...]
Cómo despegarse de una relación toxica cuando la persona se ha ido pero el dolor prevalece June 16, 2019 by Emanuel Urrea and Mary Robinson Leave a Comment Han pasado casi dos años desde que termine mi última relación duradera. Parece tan extraño pensar que hemos estado separados mas tiempo del que estuvimos juntos. Cuando empezó, pensé que finalmente había encontrado a esa persona. Pronto empecé a experimentar ansiedad y dudas luego de que muchas señales de advertencia empezaron a surgir. Yo anhelaba amar y compartir mi vida con … [Read more...]