‘If My Community Fucks Up, How Would You Like Me to Hold Them Accountable?’
When we acknowledge the fatphobia that is so often behind our body image issues—and when we accept that we do not face size discrimination in the way that fat folks do—we can become more critical about our own feelings about our bodies and the language we use to talk about our insecurities.
Cis men are tremendously underserved when it comes to mental illness, despite the fact that they are just as likely to suffer from mental health issues as anyone else. Our society, however, has created a nearly impenetrable bubble around men
Radical self-care, like radical self-love, pushes against the boundaries of the ordinary. It is robust, proactive, and unconditional. It is genuinely radical – it gets to the root of our bodies, hearts, and minds.
When you’re constantly the subject of laws, amendments, and media speculation; it’s easy to forget that you are more than just a number. Your existence is valid, regardless of how you crossed the border, where you are from, and where you are today.
In a few words: it sucks. Breakups are horrible things, even if, as in my case, they really need to happen. And getting a divorce, with the complications of being legally entangled with […]
Instead, we need a holistic addressing of systems that are killing us with policing, food deserts, lack of access to water, education, physical and mental health and more. We need to cultivate the value and fostering of livelihood of vulnerable communities. We will not find these comprehensive solutions in more laws on occupied lands.
DeCentering Whiteness: On Facing the Class Privilege that Exists in Mixed Race Asian Communities & Beyond
In so many ways, the dominant images and stories around mixed race identities in the U.S. revolve around folks who are half white, and/or whose mixed race identity gives them a proximity to whiteness that other mixed race folks and people of color don’t have. And while it’s important to talk about the complexities of being mixed race in a white supremacist society, it’s also important that we don’t default to re-centering whiteness in those conversations.
The people who say these things (which you may well be, without knowing it) don’t mean to be hurtful. In fact, they tend to be those most trying to be helpful. Which means that if we can just spread the message of what sorts of things not to say, there’s a fair chance they might actually change.
1. Relationships Are Not About Ownership. Decolonial love looks like using language in relationships that doesn’t reduce your partner to a piece of property, but rather acknowledges both of you as people with agency.
The goal of imaginative, ecstatic solitude masturbation is to get me to a place where I know how to get my own body to feel good…
The silver lining of leaving my toxic relationship was the lessons about myself and love. I am worthy of more than I was offered and more than I settled for. No relationship is perfect, but a healthy relationship should involve mutual respect, honest communication and commitment to growth.
This is the first thought that crosses my mind every time I think about losing weight. It is a question that I do not have the answer to—at least not one that ever seems to stick
Emotional labor should not be the physical labor through which we are exploited by capitalism, it should be the practice of loving through which we achieve personal transformation and collective liberation.
We’re all points of light in this big world and rather than shining more brightly than others I want them to understand that loving their own light means loving others light even if it’s a different shape or a different color.