Radical self-love means being open to opportunities and recognizing that the old cliché about the more love you send out the more you get back is truer today than ever. More people than ever before are lonely, which means we need each other more than ever, especially in this anxiety-producing political climate.
Passing on the discrimination we experience from abled people by distancing ourselves from other disabled people and centering our own stories even when they are not the ones that most need to be heard isn’t helping the cause of disabled people.
In my family of origin, there was no uncle and there wasn’t a backroom. However, as my grandfather aged and moved from being able bodied to disabled, he became that uncle and the backroom became a very real and horrible place.
Growing old in America is getting increasingly scarier under this administration and the burden of the lack of resources and support will fall on the shoulders of other generations who are being affected in negative ways as well. We are all needing change and we need it quick.
“You made me feel seen. That made me feel human.”
For me, the entire notion of health is alien. The only constant in my life is agonizing pain. Pain from incurable conditions. Pain from memories. Pain from healing scars. And yet, I delight in the way my body moves when I dance. It gets carried away and spins in arcs and circles. I love my body. I marvel at my scars, even if all I have left is the memory. I am so, so alive.
We bring our social identities with us into our connections. Be aware of how the things in the world are affecting the various communities that your friend is a part of that you aren’t. That could mean anything from putting your body on the line in a protest to remembering not to offer them anything with pork.
Fortunately, not all self care take hours to do, and there are some fantastic acts of self care that take only minutes to complete, and can be done just about anywhere. Here are ten self care acts that take five minutes or less.
I am sick of reminding them of the simple fact that who we choose to love and, by extension, invest in is political.
Like kids in a classroom, we pass each other the answers to tests: say this on that benefits application, not that. Use this careful wording in the ER so they’ll give you pain meds that work.
Food became less about therapy and more about real enjoyment.
La primera vez que mi terapeuta mencionó el termino incesto emocional me agarró desprevenida. El termino en si genera una reacción de rechazo inmenso. Me anotó la información de un libro para que lo buscara cuando estuviese lista.
Change requires consciousness; how else can we get what we want? Change requires the acceptance of imperfection as something shared by all humans. Radical self-love gives our own struggles context and the consciousness to make change meaningful beyond our own vanity
STI shaming is a particular strain of body shaming that keeps going unchecked because most of us who are in a position to oppose it feel silenced by the shaming itself. Talking about STIs can be scary. Coming out as having an STI can be scary. Given this hostile context, well-meaning individuals are prone to perpetuating senseless stereotypes without realizing it, simply because they have not learned otherwise.
I don’t want to hear about your diet*, and I especially don’t want to hear about what you are not eating.