I learned that love isn’t always enough. It certainly is not enough in a toxic relationship, even if he wants to marry you. I ignored major red flags from the beginning because he said he loved me.
Male feminists are not immune to their masculine socialization – which is categorically toxic. They’re supposed to seek to dismantle it.
The hardest part of dealing with these stereotypes is finding a way to escape them, whether it is dealing with them head on or just leaving the space when possible.
When I’m in non-Muslims spaces, a safer space is one that acknowledges that there is nuance within difference. I need a space that doesn’t suggest that my experiences and thoughts are synonymous with the experiences and thoughts of all Muslims (Black, woman, or otherwise).
My talk about the the birds and the bees started rather earlier than I thought it would. And also therefore, my discussion about everything which had to do with it. That’s a dicey tightrope between fearmongering and living in love. Too little information and we won’t have protected her, too much information are we will have harmed her.
Stop Assuming Everyone Wants a Partner: 5 Ways You’re Erasing Asexual & Aromantic People and What to Do Instead
I’m convinced that the main reason behind asexual and aromantic erasure is the widespread belief that we need sex and romance in our lives to be happy. Growing up, this belief is something we take in everywhere—television, young adult novels, all the way down to the way we were raised.
Our ability to experience shame makes it difficult to tell the difference between genuine shame and the toxic shame that is laid on us by others. Toxic shame is insidious because it just sneaks in there and we end up believing that it is our shame, that we own it and therefore it must be true.
Vacations should be about relaxing, enjoying oneself, having fun, and making good memories, but it is hard to relax and have fun when your mental health is suffering.
I want to be very clear, there is generally nothing wrong with body positivity. It just should not be mistaken for the kind of fat activism that is needed for actual fat liberation.
Creer en la autonomía de un niño significa respetar no solo grandes elecciones como qué desean aprender sino también cosas simpes como de qué color quieren llevar su pelo.
Just because someone doesn’t completely understand your words, doesn’t mean they aren’t as oppressed or revolutionary as you.
Take all that love, kindness, and forgiveness you gave to your partner. Dust it off, refocus and reframe it, and direct it right back at yourself
Black Americans cultivated Islam within this country and faced persecution that we see recreated today.
I’ve seen the fatness-as-a-product of trauma conversation pop up about 5 times in my feed this week, and though I have no desire to belittle the truly stultifying realities and effects of trauma (sexual and otherwise), I would like to offer the following 4 additional frameworks to consider as this conversation is happening:
Ever since I became a mother seven years ago, I have struggled to find parenting resources that reflect my visions for social justice. The revolution truly begins at home with our children of color. Now, let’s get free!